Throw it back

Responsibility and assistance are the words that have something in common and that something is ‘providing help’. There is a thin difference between responsibility and assistance and we must know that difference to be successful in life.

Now the question comes how one can be successful if one knows the difference between these two? Before going any further and explain you about becoming successful, I must tell you why we became unsuccessful if we don’t know the difference between ‘Responsibility’ and ‘Assistance’?

Responsibility means we are shouldering help to someone who is not able to complete his work, task, assignments and need our help to manage/complete his tasks. Here we need to think that why he is not able to complete his task, because he don’t know about it or because he don’t have an idea how to start with it or because he is incapable of doing a task or because it is in his nature to take help from someone else and share his responsibility with others or may be any other reason.

If the reason behind sharing Responsibility is that “it is in person nature” then we need to take care of ourselves from such people. Why? comes instantly in our mind, because once we start sharing his responsibilities we are responsible for the success as well as failure of his work, we start looking at his work as our responsibility, we take care of his work as it is our work and in sometime we bogged down with his task, his responsibilities and then we start doubting ourselves that if something goes wrong then we are held responsible for it although it is not our task/work and we are not responsible for the outcome of his work, we are there to help him to overcome his problems still we have a guilt feeling that his task does not provide desired results.

At the same time we forget our desires, our path to success, what we want to achieve in our life because we are under stress to see that other person can complete his task, fulfill his responsibilities but on the other hand the other person does not think about us, and on the basis of our help, our shared responsibilities he start achieving success in life and we remain where we are, our growth path freeze and we don’t have any idea about our personal and professional life.

If the reason is that the person don’t know about the task and he is incapable of doing a task then in that case the help we are providing is a kind of assistance, our assistance to a person will make a person to complete his task but we are not sharing his responsibility, we are not responsible for the success or failure of his task. Our work finishes, once we are done with our help.

Once we know and understand that sharing responsibilities can be harmful at sometimes then we should also learn to avoid such situations. The best way to avoid such situations in life to not to share responsibilities of a person (I am not saying that you do not provide assistance), once something is thrown to you, you should throw it back and tell the person that you are not here to share his responsibilities and you don’t want to be responsible for his work, his responsibilities, although you are always there to provide assistance. Once you start throwing back the responsibilities, you should be able to concentrate on your work, your desires, you are on your path to success and you will be able to achieve whatever you want in life.

So, friends do remember “Throw it back”.